I don't understand why people get so annoyed when we ask for clarification!

Some folks have posited it's because NTs weaponize rhetorical questions. They'll ask them as a form of criticism, i.e. "so you're going with that, are you?"

Because that's how they use them, it's assumed we're being passive-aggressive and doing the same?

And they say we have communication deficits?! NTs make me dizzy with all the social games they play. It's exhausting.