I am so sorry for your family's tragic history, and do try to be very conscious and respectful of using such emotionally-laden and historically important terminology. I assure you I did not use it lightly, nor loosely. Asperger was a Nazi supporter, I have done a lot of reading and research on the history of Autism, and wouldn't call him that if the evidence didn't support it.

https://aninjusticemag.com/naziism-still-influences-modern-psychology-6e59eb2cd2a9